Love Your Self This Valentine’s Day


By Laura Norman Special to The Pineapple In most cultures around the world today, being labeled a “selfish” person is something to be avoided at all costs. Yet, if you look closely, most of us spend our entire lives selfishly searching everywhere for ways to feel fulfilled. We will go to almost any lengths to find something – or someone – that makes us feel good about ourselves. And what do we do when we finally get it–the job, relationship, house, car, politician or gadget we were sure would make us happy? We soon begin to feel like we’re missing something again, so we question what we have, and the vicious cycle continues: “Oh, this job wasn’t what I expected it to be.” “He/she isn’t the same as when we met.” “I can’t wait until this year’s gadget comes out!” What’s going on here? We have been trained from birth to look outside ourselves to find happiness and contentment. The same is true for our parents and their parents before them. We constantly look to others – people and possessions – to make us feel good about ourselves. As long as people behave in a way that is “acceptable” to us, that makes us feel safe or good, all seems to be well. The minute their behavior or beliefs step outside our comfort zone, we criticize, ostracize and, ultimately, dehumanize them to coerce them to behave in a way that makes us feel good. Are we having fun yet? Since we cannot always control external circumstances, events or the billions of people supposedly capable of making us either happy or unhappy by their behavior, what is there left for us to do? We can focus on “Self-fullness.” The healthiest, happiest, most generous people know the secret to true joy and happiness. They understand that only by being full of “Self” first can we create miracles for ourselves and others! Consider airline pre-flight safety instructions. Remember how the flight attendant always tells you that “…should the plane experience turbulence or loss of cabin pressure, your oxygen masks will be deployed. Please put your own mask on first, and only then place the mask on your child.” Why are we rightly told to ignore others? Because we are in no position to help anyone else until we have enough oxygen ourselves. Similarly, unless we have enough “Self” – love, compassion, Source – within us, we have nothing to give others. While we are all connected to Source, we forget our connection and start to believe we are on our own. We then perpetuate the cycle of looking to others to try to fill that “void.” We can only offer the real gifts of peace, love, joy and clarity to our children, spouses, colleagues, and everyone else whose lives we touch by embodying those qualities. As Gandhi is so often quoted, “Be the change you seek in the world.” Our real gift is simply being full of “Self.” We will then naturally become a shining example for everyone in our lives. Meditation, Yoga, Qigong and Reflexology are some of the powerful ways available to help our transition to Self-fullness. Removing stress and clearing the mind of negative thoughts and feelings are critical steps to remembering and reconnecting with who we really are. Reflexology works by relieving stress, promoting relaxation and creating a profound sense of inner peace, all the way to the cellular level. Using reflexology within a broader, holistic context helps awaken the knowingness of who we really are. By calming your central nervous system, changing habits of thought and clearing the resistance that stand between where you are now and a true sense of fulfillment, Holistic reflexology helps you “open the door” to allow your own Self- fullness. Remember the Self-full person you are capable of being. The person who no longer needs to look outside themselves for fulfillment. The person who is keenly aware of the infinite powers and resources of this glorious universe. The person who knows intuitively how to tap into those powers and resources for themselves and others. Celebrate Valentine’s Day this year by taking steps to love and honor your Self. Create new possibilities and live the fulfilled life you deserve. Laura Norman, M.S., LMT, world-renowned Holistic Reflexologist, educator and author of the best-selling book, Feet First: A Guide to Foot Reflexology, offers private Reflexology and Life Wellness Coaching sessions in Delray Beach and Holistic Reflexology Training Programs in Boynton Beach starting February 9th. Gift Certificates available online for Valentine’s Day and all occasions. Visit • Call 561-272-1220